Tag Archive | Control

It is OK to Be Out of Control

Control Freaks…Do you know one or perhaps you are one!

“Now, it is only natural to want be in control of your own life, but when you feel you have to have control of everyone else’s life, you have a problem. These are the key aspects of a Control Freak. They have a driving need to create your agenda, they insist on controlling all their interactions with you, basically, they have to run the show and call they shot – OR ELSE.”~ Socyberty

 

“Are You a Control Freak?”  is an incredible article on what makes a Control Freak tick and how to deal with them..I highly recommend this read!

We all know a Control Freak…It is the person who must know every aspect of what you are doing and proceeds to provide feedback or even tell you how to do it…They have no respect for boundaries and need to know all the details.The Control Freak will pump you for information by asking lots of questions…Because knowledge is power!

Control Freaks can be a family member, friend, boss, co-worker, teacher, fellow Christian or pastor…. Yes, you read correctly…pastor!

If you struggle with a Control Freak…”Sometimes, in order to keep your self-worth, and not be humiliated or bulldozed by their controlling ways, the best thing you can do is to walk out, turn that phone off, or just generally take yourself out of that situation. As easy as it may seem to be to just get angry back at them, it really does no good, and your best frame of mind is to remind yourself that they are stuck in that world of self-pity, and you are not. Even if they try to goad you by saying you are to chick to stay and fight, walk away. You will have one in essence anyways.”  ~Socyberty

If you struggle with being a Control Freak…this scripture will help!

Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody. 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12

IT IS OK TO BE OUT OF CONTROL!

Love Lee ♥

Stuck in Your Circumstances

Yesterday I asked, “Who Controls Your Storm”. Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in the storm and can’t get out? This is a great video by Beth Moore to give you guidance on what to do while enduring the storm…

Praise Him No Matter Your Circumstances

Love Lee ♥

I Just Can’t Control Myself

You think you have no self-control Well, just let your neighbor ring the doorbell while you are in the middle of throwing a wall-eyed fit. What do you do? You plaster a great big smile on your face and in a sugary sweet voice you greet that neighbor as any Southern Belle would do. You invite them in and you carry on a conversation with them as if absolutely nothing had upset your apple cart 5 minutes prior.  

Now, that’s self-control if I ever saw it!!!

Self control is a fruit of the spirit which is gifted to you the day you ask Jesus to be the Lord of your life. But, that gift is given as a seed. It must be cultivated, nurtured and matured. It is not a full-grown plant the day you receive it.

…the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23

What is it in your life that causes you to lose control of yourself? What pushes your buttons? Could it be…

  • The kids fighting
  • Your husband leaving his underwear on the floor
  • Dirty dishes in the sink
  • Toilet paper hung backward on the roll
  • The tooth pasted squeezed in the middle rather than rolled from the bottom
  • A huge piece of Chocolate Cake left out on the counter
  • A person which rubs you the wrong way

Whatever it is that sets you off, doesn’t have to.  You have the seed of Self Control given to you by your heavenly Father. All you must do is exercise it in order for it to be strengthened. In time you will become stronger and much more proficient at using it. Much like one is strengthened by physical exercise.

You can be in control…

Love Lee ♥

If Momma Ain’t Happy

It is amazing how much influence a woman has over her home. For years my husband has jokingly said, “If Momma Aint Happy; Aint Nobody Happy”. There is so much truth to that saying. We as women set the tone in our homes. Having a bad day? Well, you can pretty much bet everyone else in the house is too. Happy and joyful? Give it a little time and your happiness will affect the whole family. Think about it…the attitude of the wife/ mother sets the tone for entire home. That is a lot of power we possess!

I also feel it would be safe to say, the priorities of the wife/ mother becomes the priorities for the entire family. If it is a priority to attend an event, you can pretty much bet the entire family will be there. If it is a priority to clean house, momma will enlist the help of the family. Amazingly everyone’s priority becomes housework whether they are in the mood to clean or not.

When a woman gets it in her mind to do something there is little a man can do to sway her from it. In fact, the woman has a lot of power over the man to sway him to her line of thinking. This phenomenon is demonstrated in Genesis when Eve persuaded Adam to partake of the forbidden fruit. Knowing this, we as wives and mothers must be so very careful because the results of our persuasion can undermine our husband’s wisdom and authority in the home.

Ladies, I challenge you to set priorities which places God in the center of your home, to serve Him, and to create an atmosphere of worship in your homes. Meet the challenge and set priorities that will provide the opportunity and atmosphere for the rest of your family to make God important in their lives.

“But as for me and my household we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15 

Has this scripture been put into practice in your home? Is serving God a priority for your home? Are you living the example so your family recognizes this as a priority?  

Place Jesus in the heart of your home and your home will have a heart like Jesus!

Love Lee ♥

Stand Firm & Be Still

How often do we forget God goes before us and He has everything under control. This is  especially difficult when everyone and all evidence around us screams failure…

This is not a dilemma specific to this day and age. In fact, in Exodus the Israelites faced the same dilemma. The Israelites had fled Egypt and was following the pillar of smoke by day and the pillar of fire by night when they had left Etham. God spoke to Moses and told him to tell the Israelites to turn back and encamp near Pi Hahiroth, between Migdol and the sea.  When Pharaoh found out the Israelites fled he took 600 of his best chariots along with all the other chariots of Egypt and pursued the Israelites. As Pharoah approached the Israelites looked up and there were the Egyptians marching after them.

Now I don’t know about you but the first words that come to my mind when I am in a pinch is “OH GOD” and that is just what the Israelites said. They immediately began to cry out to the Lord. Then much like we do today, they started blaming Moses for the mess they “thought” they were in. Hmmm….”Thought Life”  possibly a future post!

Did Moses cave under all the pressure? No…

“Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid.” Stand firm and you will see the deliverance of the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The Lord will fight fo you; you need only to be still.”

Wow…don’t know about you but if the enemy were marching toward me standing still would not be my reaction!

My dear friends we face the enemy every day!!! It is in the form of  Illness, Debt, Hunger, Broken Relationships, Bad Attitudes, Loneliness, Fluctuating Emotions…

What does your enemy look like? Are you panicking, blaming, or frozen by your fears?

God is the same yesterday, today, and forever…He knows the army you are facing. So stand firm and see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today! He will fight for you if you will just be God is the same  still and stop trying to handle everything yourself!

Let Go And Let God!

Love Lee ♥

It’s Contagious…Stop The Spread!!!

Have you ever noticed how someone can walk into the room and the entire atmosphere can change?
I remember one instance when this occurred…Huge Lesson Learned!!!
 
I was working in an ICU unit and every bed held a patient. Although we were full, the day was pleasant and was without much drama or crisis. The phone rang and I was asked to help with a special procedure that was being performed in a different department. So, because everything was “calm” and “under control”, I told my co-worker I was going to help with a procedure and I would be right back. I left the unit and assisted with the procedure which took all of 15 minutes.
 
When I returned to the ICU what I found was UNBELIEVABLE!!! Total chaos had taken over the ICU…Call bells going off, family members at the nurses station, and the noise level was off the chart. Then out of the corner of my eye I saw my co-worker running around frantically in a panic.
 
Suddenly I realized what happened…Because I was being pulled away from the unit, my co-worker went into a complete panic and her panic had permeated the entire ICU unit…
 
I walked over to her. Told her to take a deep breath, grab a Coke and leave the unit for a break. Once she left the ICU, I took a deep breath and said a very brief prayer and made my way through the unit room by room…Tucking patients in speaking words of peace and calm over the patients with a pleasant and assuring smile. Within about 10 minutes a hush fell over the place.
 
My co-worker returned and was totally amazed at the transformation which had taken place in her absence. She asked me what had happened. I took the opportunity show her how her panic had permeated the entire ICU in the 15 minutes I was gone.  I also was able to teach her how to reign in her emotions, take control of situations, and promote peace over her patients and thus the entire ICU.
 
There have been other times I have witnessed this occur…sitting in meetings where everyone is smiling, making contributions to solutions to issues, and interacting in a healthy and professional manner. Then, an individual having a rough day can walk into the room and squelch all team productivity and change the entire tone of the meeting. 
 
Have you noticed this in your home. A family member comes in after a hard, emotional, or trying day? They can walk in the door and the entire atmosphere changes. What do you do? 
  • Recognize what is going on
  • Hold on to your peace and do you allow your peace to be disturbed or your attitude to take a downward trend
  • Pray over your home and ask God’s protection over your home
  • Pray for the person struggling

Emotions are contagious, negativity, anxiety, and discord in your home can be prevented with prayer, education, and persistence. Finally…

DO NOT EXPOSE YOURSELF TO THE CONTAGIOUS NEGATIVE EMOTIONS OF OTHERS

Think about it…why do you want to surround yourself with negativity? IT IS CONTAGIOUS!!! Evaluate the people you choose to surround yourself with. Choose your friends wisely or encourage them to change their attitude.

I remember when a nurse in the ER came in one day and I told her “Good Morning”. Her response was “What’s so good about it?”. I took the opportunity to tell her I had made the decision to remove negative people from my life. I also said, “You know, I like you and really want to be your friend so you are going to have to be a more positive person if you want to be my friend”. Suddenly, the decision was hers. From that day forward, she has never said another negative phrase or word to me.

Let your peace radiate into the world. Then the world becomes a more peaceful place one person at a time.

TAKE CONTROL AND PROTECT YOURSELF!!!

 
Love Lee ♥