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Need to Breathe


The ceiling is so low, the walls are closing in around me, you are standing too close, my clothes are too heavy…I can’t get my breath…I Need To Breathe!!!

For as long as I can remember these feelings have been ever present and something I have struggled with my entire life…I am Claustrophobic!!!

It wasn’t until later in life I learned that claustrophobia is often caused by a traumatic event experienced during early childhood. For example, adults may develop claustrophobia if, as a child they: were trapped or kept in a confined space, were bullied, or abused.

While relieved to learn I didn’t bring this on myself, it makes me sad to know I must continue to suffer from the emotional and physical abuse I endured as a child.

The struggle is real but I thank God every day for Richard’s patience and support! He is definitely the most tolerant man I know! Heck we even sold one of our most favorite houses because the ceilings were too low…

Someone might ask, “why on earth are you sharing this?”. Well, quite frankly, I’ve asked myself that too! Bottom line if this post can help even one person then my work here is done!

I am also of the belief that for every problem there is a solution. While this post will not cure what ails you, it just might help you cope.

So, here’s a list of things that helps me cope:

  1. Get rid of the clutter. Clutter takes up precious space a claustrophobic craves
  2. Open the window blinds. We even go as far as removing the window screens for unobstructed views which provides the illusion of space by bringing the views of nature inside. This has been especially true in our RV
  3. Decorate with mirrors. They reflect light and also create the illusion of space
  4. Purchase a home with the largest amount of square footage you can afford. Square footage was the priority for us so much so we opted to buy homes that required sweat and tears for the biggest bang for our buck
  5. Go outside! This is my greatest secret of survival because the skies are vast, the air has movement, the scents are fresh, and you can move about without bumping into things!!!
  6. Crawl into the water and float in the sunshine. Hands down my most favorite activity EVER!!! First of all the water renders me pretty much weightless and the sun warms my mind, body, and spirit! I frequently remind my family that my spirit animal is a whale and sign all my texts with a whale emoji 🐳
  7. Don’t forget about your vehicle. Make sure you are not too close to the dashboard. If your budget allows get a sunroof and leave it open ALL the time!

To the claustrophobic…Space is you friend so you can fulfill your…


No More “What If”

Have you found yourself wanting for something but find fear holds you back? You find yourself living in the world of “What If”

  • What if it hurts?
  • What if I can’t do it?
  • What if they don’t like me?
  • What if they don’t approve?
  • What if it doesn’t turn out right?
  • What if _________ ? (you fill in the blank)

Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain. ~Mark Twain.  Action is our greatest weapon against fear. Left to smolder, fear grows upon itself, but in the face of action, fear is left in the dust.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…I John 4:18

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Nelson Mandela


Let Your Light Shine

Love Lee ♄

Stand Firm & Be Still

How often do we forget God goes before us and He has everything under control. This is  especially difficult when everyone and all evidence around us screams failure…

This is not a dilemma specific to this day and age. In fact, in Exodus the Israelites faced the same dilemma. The Israelites had fled Egypt and was following the pillar of smoke by day and the pillar of fire by night when they had left Etham. God spoke to Moses and told him to tell the Israelites to turn back and encamp near Pi Hahiroth, between Migdol and the sea.  When Pharaoh found out the Israelites fled he took 600 of his best chariots along with all the other chariots of Egypt and pursued the Israelites. As Pharoah approached the Israelites looked up and there were the Egyptians marching after them.

Now I don’t know about you but the first words that come to my mind when I am in a pinch is “OH GOD” and that is just what the Israelites said. They immediately began to cry out to the Lord. Then much like we do today, they started blaming Moses for the mess they “thought” they were in. Hmmm….”Thought Life”  possibly a future post!

Did Moses cave under all the pressure? No…

“Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid.” Stand firm and you will see the deliverance of the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The Lord will fight fo you; you need only to be still.”

Wow…don’t know about you but if the enemy were marching toward me standing still would not be my reaction!

My dear friends we face the enemy every day!!! It is in the form of  Illness, Debt, Hunger, Broken Relationships, Bad Attitudes, Loneliness, Fluctuating Emotions…

What does your enemy look like? Are you panicking, blaming, or frozen by your fears?

God is the same yesterday, today, and forever…He knows the army you are facing. So stand firm and see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today! He will fight for you if you will just be God is the same  still and stop trying to handle everything yourself!

Let Go And Let God!

Love Lee ♄