“Junk In = Junk Out” is a saying I learned while working on an electronic documentation system for the hospital. I have learned this phrase is not only true for computers but also humans. At times we can be our own worst enemy by filling our mind with negative thoughts which is the “Junk In” and these thoughts in turn affect our behaviors which becomes the “Junk Out”.
While we try to be positive we are bombarded both consciously and subconsciously with negativity. In turn, our actions begin to reflect these negative thoughts. Then before you know it our posture and appearance screams negativity with our slumped shoulders, down facing gaze, slow and non-purposeful gait, and even a scowl or a frown.
Of course about now you’re thinking…Not me, I always try to be positive and upbeat!!! Well, we all have been guilty of:
Fear of Failure
Criticizing Yourself and Others
Negative Self Talk
Fear of Success
Yep, we are all guilty!!! But, God does give us instructions on how we can turn our negative stinking thinking into the positive in Philippians 4:8
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
There you have it!!! So…
Just Give It Up Already
Give Up the Negative and Instead Think To Yourself “Whatsoever”
All to often we forget how our spoken word impacts others. And, every day we decide whether the impact will be positive or negative. But, what we have no control over is the lasting effects of our words.
King Solomon said, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21) and he was sooo right!
Think back to your childhood to a time when someone said something to you that still impacts you today. I can think of many…In-fact, I can think of words from a week, month, and year ago.
So, how do you speak to others today? Are your words positive and uplifting or are the negative and cutting? There are several ways you can have a positive impact with the spoken word.
Speak in Love
Practice Giving Compliments
Practice Responding rather than Reacting
Learn to say I am sorry
Learn to say I forgive you
Practice positive Self-Talk
Remember to say Thank You
The words which flow from your mouth could possible impact others for generations and once those words leave your mouth…
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13
Everyone has the ability to provide positive encouragement, but to do so often requires us to step out of our world, take our minds off of ourselves and re-direct our thoughts towards others. Too little encouragement to others can lead one to believe you are self-centered and uncaring. Too much encouragement can be construed as pushy or obsessive.
To be a great encourager you should…
Keep an open mind and allow others to voice their opinions. Give them a chance to say what they think and feel.
Focus on the needs of others showing them you are on their side and have only the best intentions in mind.
Be spontaneous by giving encouragement for the things they do, their performance, or how they are in general and not just when they do something praiseworthy
Be honest when giving encouragement because chances are the other person can tell when you’re being fake.
Always find a way to flip a negative into encouragement. All encouragement is based on success…so, For example, instead of telling someone that what they did was completely wrong, tell them at least one or two things that they did right, then explain how it can be even better if they consider doing something else as well.
Offer to help. Suggest several ways that you might be of service, then ask if there is anything else that you can do. If the person turns down your request, let her know that you are there to help whenever possible. This lets the person know that she isn’t alone.
Encouragement should be…
1. Personal – Tell them personally how much you believe in them. 2. Pointed – Tell them specifically what you appreciate about them. 3. Public – Talk them up in front of others. 4. Purposeful – Have a goal that you are shooting for in their lives. Don’t make it meaningless.
How being an encourager effects you…
Your focus becomes positive rather than negative
Your thoughts are turned towards others rather than yourself
You become more aware of others efforts and hard work as well as their disappointments.
You are being obedient to God’s word
Lifting up others may not be second nature to you but with prayer and practice you can become an awesome source of encouragement to others…
Who do you know that needs a little encouraging today?