In a recent conversation with a friend we discussed the effects of growing up without the presence of her father in her home. In-fact she did not even know who her father was. Life was challenging and many of her emotional needs were not met resulting in poor life choices, acting out, and feelings of insignificance.
Statistics show that children who grow up in a fatherless home are:
- 5 Times more likely to commit suicide
- 32 Times more likely to run away
- 20 Times more likely to have behavioral disorders
- 14 Times more likely to commit rape
- 9 Times more likely to drop out of highschool
- 10 Times more likely to abuse chemical substances
- 20 Times more likely to end up in prison
Wow…this is mind-boggling and is so dismal.
Fatherlessness is not only those who grew up without a father but also those who had one he did not meet the emotional needs of his family. The father that is consumed with his own personal wants and desires without regard to the effects it will have on the family.
Growing up my home life was less than perfect…I was not fatherless but on the other hand did not receive the unconditional love and acceptance a daughter seeks from their dad. My parents divorced when I was 16 and my mother remarried. My Pappy is a wonderful man and as an adult provided me, my sisters, and brother with unconditional love and acceptance. He loves us and would go to the moon and back for us.
When it comes to my childhood…
- Am I bitter….NO
- Am I sad…A little
- Do I miss him…at times
- Would I change anything…NEVER!!!
You see, it was during those times of feeling like I didn’t measure up or feeling I had been abandoned by my earthly dad that my Heavenly Father made Himself known to me. He showed me that He:
- Loves and adores me
- Wants to spend time with me
- Cares about what concerns me
- Celebrates my successes
- Knows what makes me tick
- Disciplines me when I need it
- Takes care of all my needs.
If you are fortunate enough to have an earthly father who has met your physical and emotional needs growing up…Yeah. But for those of you who have not please know all is not lost and you my precious one are not fatherless and you do not have to be a statistic.
The Lord your God is with you He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing. Zephaniah 3:17